Unspoken Strength: The Emotional Resilience of Women

~ A Tribute to the Silent Warriors ~

Walking in the hustle of life is a woman whose strength is usually not traceable. She can be a mother, a daughter, a wife, a sister, a friend or all of these in one. She keeps the world she inhabits on a tight leash with the super power of her emotional strength. Her battles might not at all times be noisy, but her strength resounds in the quiet recesses into which her life has fallen. This article can be considered a tribute to that unannounced power- the emotional stability which enables women to get up, despite the world literally breaking down.

What Emotional Resilience means?

Emotional resilience refers to the process of adapting and trying to recover and become stronger following some adversity, trauma, or stress. Women, this resilience is more of a virtue to them and also a survival instinct as far as it has sunk in their emotional deep fibroids. They must survive heartbreak, loss, rejection, fear and excessive responsibilities more gracefully than would be seeking calls of applause. A smile carries a story behind it. There is a storm she has braved in the quiet pursuit of success.

A Lifetime of Expectations

Since early ages women are expected by the society to be calm, caring, responsible, and nurturing, as well as selfless. She is being taught to smile in spite of pain, adapt, compromise and to always understand. However, despite her taking bends to fill in these roles, she seldom cracks.

It might be a teenage girl waging the war on her own insecurities in a world that asks her so many questions about her value… or a young woman struggling to juggle career goals and the nagging of society to find a man and get settled down… or a mom doing all she can to give and give and yet tear up in the night alone… all periods of a woman are asked to be strong. And as is always the case she makes it more often than not with courage and not with complaints.

Strength  is in Silence.......

Most women are told that they are not supposed to display “excessive” emotion. They become aggressive when they develop anger. They become depressed. They get selfish because of ambition. But by means of this conditioning, they acquire knowledge on how to redirect their feelings inwardly- how to accept pain without allowing it to shape them and how to cry non-verbally and yet come out smiling.

She does not necessarily talk about her battles, but she has them; battles all the time. She does not need to be validated, but she should be validated- moment by moment.

The Invisible Load She Carries

The capacity to bear the invisible burden is one of the highest levels of emotional strength in females. This encompasses the invisible mental and emotional work, such as, remembering the birthdays of all the family members, silently sustaining the emotional lives of the family, feting the infirm, being flexible to varying schedules, and being the primary source of emotional stability to the people around her.

She turns up even when she is defeated. She continues to shower love even when her heart breaks. She continues to walk even when her soul can no longer walk. It is not because she is superhuman but in the belief to keep others going even when she is tearing apart.

Moments That Define Her Strength

• When she chooses to pardon after betrayal, it is not that she is weak but because she wants peace more than revenge.

• When she decides to leave, it can be the end of a toxic relationship or an unfulfilling job or a place that stops appreciating her. 

• When she decides to remain, and to endure pain in order to fulfill her duty of children or its principles.

• When she dreams, despite being told she can’t, and achieves what no one thought possible. 

It is not a survival mode only. They are power plays.

A Message to Every Woman.....!!!! To all women who cried and did not make a sound, laughed and could not lead a normal life, and used to stand straight after being shattered-

• You are not as weak as you think you are.
• You have the right to sleep.
• You are not prevented to say no.
• You can select yourself.

Being emotional is not a weakness- it is a gift. Even the strongest souls are entitled to receive support, love and care.

There is no need to have to prove something to anybody.

All you have to do is keep in mind this: You may not always feel your strength being felt in the world but the world does and so does the lives that you touch in your every day lives.