~ Honoring the Strength Behind Every Role She Plays ~
At the silent nooks and corners of houses, offices, kitchens and even in the classrooms women lead a life full of dreams, duties, and assignments; lots of which are never expressed. She is a daughter full of the want to fly and a woman full of hope that is hidden in subordinate chores of a housewife and a mother who once had a dream of her own regarding herself.
The twist however is behind her daily smile is another story not told: of dreams ignored, passions put on hold, and desires made to conform to that of her loved ones. Such a silent sacrifice is not a symptom of weakness, but on the contrary it is an intense demonstration of strength and love. Now is the time that we should consider this fact not with a tone of pity, but a respect and recognition.
The Birth of a Dream.......
All women has dreams.
Others simply aspire that they become writers, doctors, singers, dancers, astronauts, or even changemakers. Such dreams do not only get fabricated in childhood imaginations but are groomed in passion, talent, and vision. They are legal, they are legitimate.
However, somehow on the road to life, life starts to set obligations in her way. She is supposed to be more responsible, present, selfless in society. She is made to understand (gestures aside, sometimes literally), that her fantasies will have to be put to the side.
She is special not because she quits but because she keeps her dreams to herself and forges ahead to have her share of the world.
The Family Role: Love, But Also Labor
The female life of a woman can make some very abrupt twists and turns around family life. She becomes the member of a family, a daughter-in-law, a wife, a mother, and with every new role she has some new responsibilities to take. It starts earlier than persons get up in the morning to locations where people do not go to bed and it ends much later. Her time does not belong to her; starting with cooking to being an emotional support to all people who inhabit the house and can call on her.
Despite the loving families, emotional labor often has an overly large proportion of women. She recalls the visiting times with dentists, her birthday gifts, favorite foods of each member of the family, and the person others happen to confide into.
It is this ever present care giving, which however is the result of the love, that frequently goes unheard. What she also stayed up at night dreaming of now keeps her awake at the times of quiet sadness. The question she asks herself is, will I ever have time to do what I wanted?
Career vs. Household: The Tug of War
The world tends to be judgmental, especially of the woman who has had the courage to walk the path of career.
This hypocrisy is an addition to her tight rope act. Most women rise early in the morning, perform diligently on their workplace and back home to start their second job- housekeeping. They fill every single position to perfection although seldom praised as they deserve. Nevertheless, they do not give up, not because they have to, but because they are drawn into the ideology of delivering their best to their two worlds. Not only is that drive powerful, but noble.
She is failing to take care of her home. How will she cope with both? On the contrary, a man trying to ascend the corporate ladder is regarded as a responsible and hard worker. A woman who does the same is usually forced to justify her decisions. This hypocrisy is an addition to her tight rope act. Most women rise early in the morning, perform diligently on their workplace and back home to start their second job—housekeeping. They fill every single position to perfection although seldom praised as they deserve. Nevertheless, they do not give up, not because they have to, but because they are drawn into the ideology of delivering their best to their two worlds. Not only is that drive powerful, but noble.
- She is overly ambitious.
- She is failing to take care of her home.
- How will she cope with both?
This hypocrisy is an addition to her tight rope act. Most women rise early in the morning, perform diligently on their workplace and back home to start their second job- housekeeping. They fill every single position to perfection although seldom praised as they deserve. Nevertheless, they do not give up, not because they have to, but because they are drawn into the ideology of delivering their best to their two worlds. Not only is that drive powerful, but noble.
She is failing to take care of her home. How will she cope with both? On the contrary, a man trying to ascend the corporate ladder is regarded as a responsible and hard worker. A woman who does the same is usually forced to justify her decisions. This hypocrisy is an addition to her tight rope act. Most women rise early in the morning, perform diligently on their workplace and back home to start their second job—housekeeping. They fill every single position to perfection although seldom praised as they deserve. Nevertheless, they do not give up, not because they have to, but because they are drawn into the ideology of delivering their best to their two worlds. Not only is that drive powerful, but noble.
Her Silent Sacrifices............
The fact that a woman gives up so much, but it is not always voiced, makes it even more important:
She is delaying her higher education in favor of her children. She regulates her sleeping, her body care, even her inner calm to ensure that everything is at balance. She sacrifices her dreams, not because she is not a winner, but to make other people happy. Nonetheless, she hardly complains. She is declared by society to be a responsible girl with the virtue of being dutiful, but nobody ever thought about what she desires. She is powerful because she can give love without asking anything in change. A strength ought not to imply invisibility.
- She leaves employment opportunities just to be closer to family.
- She is delaying her higher education in the favor of her children.
- She regulates her sleeping, her body care even her inner calm to ensure that everything is at balance.
- She sacrifices her dreams- not because she is not a winner, but to make other people happy.
She is delaying her higher education in favor of her children. She regulates her sleeping, her body care, even her inner calm to ensure that everything is at balance. She sacrifices her dreams, not because she is not a winner, but to make other people happy. Nonetheless, she hardly complains. She is declared by society to be a responsible girl with the virtue of being dutiful, but nobody ever thought about what she desires. She is powerful because she can give love without asking anything in change. A strength ought not to imply invisibility.
What Can We Do as a Society? Be Sensitive to them......
Stop Judging. Start Listening.
Never presume the way a woman ought to do something. Probe her about what she would like to do.
Share the burden.
Men, families, as well as employers, need to take an active role in helping assuage her burden and not increase it.
Victory Her Pleasure.
Appreciate her accomplishments in every aspect of life, both at home and in the work place.
Educate the Generation Next.
White boys who always value the dreams of women and white girls like they know they have value.
****A Note to Every Woman Reading This..****
In case you have ever ignored your passion in favor of your family, When you were smiling, but deep in your heart, you put out the flame. But the dream is the same ahead of time or behind You I know that your chances have been shortchanged and I know that your dreams were too long deferred But donna you should smile awhile In case it rains another day Or ever treadd the wire of hope and being--
You are not working alone. And you are sufficient.
The strength of being able to love, to serve and to dream- and to rise.
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